I often wonder what makes a person charismatic. Is a person born charismatic? I would say yes to a point good genes do matter, if you are handsome good looking plus brains (which also is sign of good genes).But on the other hand one can find beautiful, handsome people who are not charismatic. So what are the essentials qualities for being charismatic? Being a good orator is definitely a must have, being kind and compassionate is very essential quality. Besides having complete understanding of the mysteries of life, one needs to back these up with good analytical and scientific skills too. Then the world is at your feet!
Charisma actually means holding the attention of a person/group/crowd/mob, which focuses all their attention/energy on you and nobody else. This can be possible if you have the above mentioned traits. But if you lack these superlative qualities, never mind you can be still be Charismatic. Let me tell you how?
*Before this let me clarify, I haven’t done any big deal research on this, nor am I a charismatic person. But yes I am aspiring to be one.
Ok so you want to be a Charismatic person?? Follow these steps.
· Never let a discussion or an argument go against you, if you cannot intellectually argue about this, use guerilla tactics like diverting the topic by unsettling the person who is winning the argument by hitting on the Achilles heel of the person. For this, one has to be very hardworking, you should have your research done, you should know what can unsettle the person. If there is no opposition to you, you are going to be the undisputed king, and will have everyone’s attention.
· Make sure you have your bunch of cronies wherever you might want to show off your Charisma. These are the people who will amplify your jokes, clap whenever needed, divert any doubts in the mind of the doubtful thomas’s.
· You don’t have any orator skills, and haven’t read a frickin book in your life. You don’t have to worry. Whenever you are in a spot, and have been asked to speak, you can rattle off some quotes by Confucius or Nietzsche. You don’t even have to learn it, all you have to do is store these things as sms in your mobile phones, and if some idiot ask you explain those, you can just give an monalisa smile.
· The last thing is compassion & kindness, this is the toughest one to recreate and all your act can fall apart. But I have solution for this also. When you have your chance to shine and show your charisma, this is the time you should disengage your mind of the fruits of the charismatic effect you are going to reap, this can make you look very kind and compassionate and selfless.
You should also inform all family member and close friends, that they should never advise you or scold you in public. the worst thing could be you mom telling you to take care of your upset stomach or your elder brother/sister advising you to invest wisely, or your wife mocking at you in fornt of her friends.You are the Mr. Know it all.
Finally the charisma needs to be sustained, a few pointers on that
· Remain as mysterious as possible among your target worshippers, never let them know, why you cry at night, or how you lack confidence and always doubt your skill and ability.
· Spread rumours about yourself which can make people envy you. This can be about your underworld connections, your numerous sexual exploits. The weirder the better! Keep feeding the rumors, this has to be consistent.
· It can be a PR nightmare if a loser looking picture of you should land up on social networks like facebook or twiiter. Shoot a portfolio and digitally alter it with celebs, or a few vacations in exotic looking locations think (cuba,brazil) with women who don’t have the same skin color.
· Remember if you can fake it, you can make it. So at no point you should sound or look like broke, and if by some chance you can’t show the money, you can always claim to be an activist, whose super rich dad has disowned you.
Ok I guess Im all done, all the best!