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Pride Kills (Literally)

If someone ever commits suicide, the right question to ask is not “Why did she/he commit suicide?” but to ask what hurt his/her pride?

The Maharashtrian Pride (popularly known as “Marathi Gaurav” ) is hurt by the fact that Maharashtrians are not really doing good in Mumbai as compared to other communities. There are only 2 ways to make money

  1. To use your intellect.(Education and lawful behavior)
  2. To use your might. ( Brute force or illegally)

If there was no boom in IT, where would the Maharashtrian stand? The flim industry is dominated by Punjabis, the media is dominated by bengali’s, the railways are dominated by the UP’ ites and Bihari’s.

As long as people continue to make money by use of their “Might”, (and I dont see that coming to an abrupt halt) its very fine for Mahrastrians to use brute force. I dont advocate it, but I can see the Marathi pride being hurt. I would claim I am more human.

The Lovers Pride is hurt everytime you are lied at or cheated or taken for granted. Remember love never hurts, only the Pride is hurt. 

The Commuters Pride: Everytime I am stuck in traffic , my pride hurts, by the sheer complacent attititude of the government. My Pride is severely hurt when I have squeeze myself in a crowded train or a bus. 

So Pride is what distinguishes you from others in terms of your sensibilites. There are some people who can live in slums and somepeople can never imagine of such a thing.

Pride is not greater than Love, however its a bench mark, which can be lowered or Upped. I am wondering where I am going.  

Who wins the Hindu Muslim communal war?

Hindus think muslims are violent people, they cite the example that the fact that in last 10000 years, Hindus have never invaded any country. 

Hindus say thats its the Muslims who have always started the riots or incited each and every time, and all Hindus have done is reciprocated resoundingly.

This time the Hindu pride has been restored and the Muslims have been thought a lesson and since then they have been nursing their wounds and their bazzookas! 

The Hindus are overwhelmingly confident that they will be successful in giving the Muslims a resounding thrashing everytime, I being a Hindu am not sure ! 

Surely we have 80% majority in the India, but when the war escaltes on an international scale we will become a minority and might be thrashed.

What we fail to see is, there is no Muslim or a Hindu, its just some rich politician or a Builder or a industrialist who wants to elimate a problem without the lenghty recourse of the time, just a hugely greedy person who strategises the communal war. 

Are communal wars inevitable? Do we have to as human beings desentisize ourselves in the name of progress and development? ( Progress and Development doesnt really mean you are much happier with better cars and highways) 

Its a bit diferent being killed on the battle-feild than being dragged out of your home, garlanded with rubber tyres and doused with Petrol and killed. Wars on the battlefeild are more humane, atleast the soldeirs are given a decent farewell. 

Can we make it more honorable to be killed in a communal riots and spare the humilation? Oh! I forget its all about finding the best possible means to humilate. All the propoganda talks and the bullshit has become a huge ball of fire in you, ready for consumption. 

I sometimes ask myself when push comes to shove, (I.e when I see a Muslim standing in front of me with a bazzoka (metaphorically) in hand) will I stand with a sword in one hand and a petrol bomb in another hand and kill the muslim before he kills me?

Afterall everyone must die one day or another, afterall we learn more from death than we do from life. 

I would love to connect with an intelligent muslim and clear my muddled head. Drop me a line. 

Saas, Bahu aur Damad

One of the most abused relationships is Son in law (SIL) and Daughter in law (DIL) relationship. Sometime’s we love someone because it fulfills one of our wants or needs. We love someone because it fits the hole in ourselves, and we feel complete.

But soon the round peg turns square and it no longer fits in and there is anger and resentment.

We have been cheated, when we loved that new person, it was expected to fill in the vacuum in our hearts and in our lives. Someone has reneged on their promises. 

The same love turns in to anger, resentment and estrangement, and most successful victim of this kind of conditional love are our beloved SIL and DIL. We love our SIL/DIL because they take the shit dished out by our Sons/daughters , they are there to feed and wash and look after our Sons/daughters children, or to facilitate the earning by being a Double Income family. As long as this happens the Saas & Sasur love their SIL/DIL’s.

Its no wonder that TV serials have capitalised on this abused relationship, by feeding in to the insecurities of these SIL/DIL and made so much money.

Its time we love SIL/DIL for what they are and who they are, and not merely because they suit the role of the perfecto Bahu and Damad. 

Lets stop this nonsense on TV!!!!